As I start to write this post today, earlier in the day than most. I start to prepare myself for the drive to Hamilton. This is a once a year drive to visit my psychiatrist. It’s required once a year to meet in person by the government to remain a patient. For myself I also prefer the in-person visit as opposed to the six week phone call. The personal visit brings out more and I believe seeing someone’s face while you talk about your mental health makes a big difference. A lot of times eyes and facial gestures can tell more emotion than just words spoken through the airwaves. My only small compliant is the hour and half drive, but as a cancer patient finding someone who specializes in this field is no easy task. Also, my doctor had contacted me on referral and is covered by government funding…so I deal with it and he’s a great guy.
As I’ve said before I also speak with a social worker, who is also great. It’s just that a doctor can give you more and has a vast amount of experience. Also, if you require some mediation to help right the ship either temporarily or permanently they will be the ones to make that call.
It’s an Ongoing Process
Speaking with one now for over the past close to three years has. helped me along my journey significantly. That outside professional voice can sometimes be a lifesaver, as well as a guide to help steer you down that path where you know you need to go. It’s that extra voice that can help get you there. This blog itself was a way for me to help myself with the tough mental issues that come with a cancer diagnosis. In a way to also reach those, no matter what your state of being, that it’s ok to reach out and ask for help.
Many of us, especially men and I only say this because, well…I am a man where a mask a lot of the time. Meaning we put on that seemingly brave face, suck it up and go about our daily routines whether we are happy or not. I can’t speak for women, but I’m sure it’s the same thing. Too often feelings of sadness, emptiness and loneliness are at the core of our beings and whether it’s pride, embarrassment or whatever those feeling stay hidden. Swallowed down until there is nowhere left for them to go. While most of us have loved ones that we could talk with, I personally find it relieving to have that third party to unload on. No judgement, pushback or opinions. Just an open ear to listen to what is being said, then the training to offer up solutions and ways to help yourself. Which I find can be at the heart of some problems. You have to be willing to help yourself and some people may not like that kind of tone, but this guy believes it to be true.
On top of getting the help I need and yes, I take a low dose of an anti-anxiety medication the main habits I try to keep up with are.
How I deal
- GET OUTSIDE! Plant your feet on the earth, try to take a slow stroll through a nature area.
- Exercise- I realize some people may have limitations, take a short walk to the store, grab something light lift it concentrating on the muscle. Any type of movement will make you feel better about yourself-stay consistent and I promise you’ll notice improvements.
- Read and Journal – write out how you’re feeling, start that book you’ve been meaning to read. Which leads me to the next topic.
- Turn off the TV- put a limit on the amount you watch, pick your favourite show.
- Social Media can be a great way to connect with people – but just remember most people’s lives and posts are fake showing a perfect life. Making you feel bad about yours. Forget the lies, put down your phone and appreciate what you have.
- Talk with a friend, spouse or your child. NO phone, TV or distractions and ask how life really is and listen.
Now I’m no expert and will never claim to be, this is just all common sense in my eyes. Most of us have gone through some tough times in life. It’s how we choose to deal with them that makes us stronger in the end. I wrote a few months ago about some dark times I personally went through and feel it’s important to share my experience in order to help others. https://stephenmedhurst.ca/2024/06/09/breakdown-the-importance-of-mental-health/
Instead of repeating it here you can just click the link above, but as I have previously mentioned I had my camera gear on while this happened. I had a lot of apprehension about sharing this very venerable piece of my life (I haven’t even watched it all myself yet). My belief is this could help someone or at least show that mask I talked about and the fact that I wear one at times as well. I’m working on this video now and don’t have a timeline on it, but it will be posted here.
You are Worth it….Trust Me
I have read about, heard or attended far too many celebrations of lives cut short. Life today is difficult, there is no denying it. Just remember you are worth it and to please, please reach out to someone. If you’re reading this my contact is here on the home page, any time day or night I’m available. Cancer and many aliments have a way of seeping into your mental state…my message…TALK!
If you find this content helpful, please comment, like and share with someone you know. I’ll never pretend to be the expert. But I have been there…
Cancer Won't Run My Life 